From Stupid to Brilliant – How I Saved My Life

July 3rd, 2016
“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading” ― Gautama Buddha
This happened 41 years ago when I was teaching elementary school in Brooklyn. New York. That year I was working with a class of the most poorly behaved 5th grade students. The most difficult of all was James. He was 11  ½ years old, a gang leader, involved in a murder, had absolutely no respect or fear of authority, had previously been sent to a facility for violent troubled  children, and rarely showed up to school – I am sure you have the picture of this student. When he did show up, no teacher ever had any control over him, he was a real problem. He was assigned to my class in September and never came to class until a very cold day in February.
When he walked into my room I was surprised to see him. I knew his reputation, even though I had never met him, and he knew mine. I was the teacher everyone wanted to have. I had a great reputation among the students who liked and respected me, and they knew I was in control – I could get a school yard of 350 children quiet with a “SSSSH”, while other teachers had to blow whistles and often shout to get them quiet.
I put James in a seat near my desk so I could keep a close watch over him. Near lunch time he got out of his seat and walked over to someone he knew and started to fool around with him. I said very calmly and nicely, “James please sit down, you could spend time with your friend in five minutes at lunch.” His response  was “F_ _K you Percy you’re not my father you can’t tell me what to do.” Now the whole class was watching, it was James against Mr. Percy (every one knew James’ reputation).
I looked at James and said the dumbest, stupidest thing I have ever said, “James if you say that again I will slap you in the face!” (Now  you have to understand I never ever threatened anyone with physical violence – and never ever used it in any way, yet somehow these words poured out of my mouth.)
James looked me up and down and shouted, “F_ _K you Percy!!!” Now the class was watching and I felt I had no choice but to follow up on my STUPID threat. I did not slap him, I basically tapped him on his face. James went crazy, trying to punch me, kick me, cursing me, threatening me – “My brother just got out of jail for shooting someone, he’s going to come here and shoot you!”. As he said that one of my students said, “He’s not kidding Mr. Percy.” At that point James then ran out of the room.
I brought my class to lunch and came up to my room trying to decide what to do next. My strength as a teacher was the relationships I created with my students, and I felt any chance I had to establish a positive relationship with James was totally lost. I was now his enemy. AND, every 10 seconds I thought about his brother and the gun; I knew when James made a threat he was going to carry it out, his reputation depended on that.
About 30 minutes into the lunch hour, James passed by my door and a few seconds later passed by my door again staring at me. I knew I had to confront and handle the situation. As I walked to the hallway, I didn’t know if he would be there with his gang or his brother and the gun.
James was alone and glared at me, “You better watch out Percy I got something for you!” I saw he was holding something up his right sweater sleeve. I said very calmly,“James, let’s talk about what happened this morning.” His response , “You better watch out Percy I got something for you!” as he touched what was under his sleeve.
So I grabbed his wrist and pulled out what was under the sleeve. I expected a rock or a club of some kind. What was there was  a butcher knife with an 8 inch blade. James looked at me and with great anger said with great hatred and no fear, “What you going to do now, Percy?”.
Here is my question. What did I do, so that in ONE MINUTE I completely changed his attitude about me. I became the only adult authority figure he liked, trusted and respected, and who could control him. ALL IT TOOK WAS ONE MINUTE. WHAT DID I DO – WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE?
I knew I had to get James to be willing to change his mind about me, my safety and possibly my life depended on that. I also knew  if I made him wrong in any way, that would only fuel his upset and hatred. So I focused on where I could honestly make him right for what he was feeling and what he was doing. I focused on what happened AFTER I ‘slapped’ his face.
James was expecting me to threaten him with the police, or drag him to the principal, or call his parents. What I did totally surprised him. I apologized to him. I said, “James you should be as mad as you are, and if someone had ‘slapped’ me on my face I would be as mad as you are. I owe you an apology. I am sorry.” His face went from a look of glaring hatred to one of surprise and uncertainty. But he was not totally won over by me, I knew I had to say and do one more thing. When I said what I was going to do he totally “melted” and his whole demeanor changed to one of agreement and cooperation. What do you think I said?
I knew I had done something that was the worst thing I could do to him, I humiliated and embarrassed him in front of the class, something he could never accept. I said to him,“Not only am I apologizing to you alone in the hall, I am also going to apologize to you in front of the class.” I still remember his look as I said that, he instantly became a trusting 11  ½ year old boy, not a menacing threat.
When the class came to the room after lunch they were amazed to see James willingly and cooperatively standing by my side. I said to the class, “I owe James and you an apology, I was totally wrong to threaten James and wrong to have carried out that threat. James I am sorry. and I will never do that again.” No one had ever made James right for his negative behavior, but when I honestly did make him right, he was willing to change his mind about me – let me tell you i was greatly relieved.
Now that James’ attitude was changed I was able to put in control. I had him get three negative marks for his conduct and behavior before the ‘slap on his face’. James sat down, and an hour later came up to me and said, “Here Mr. Percy, I also brought this”, and he took a knife out of his pocket and gave it to me. I thanked James and told him I will give this back to him at three o’clock and please don’t bring it to school again.
A few days later I got a letter from his social worker amazed at what happened with James. I was the only authority figure he liked, respected and trusted. Our relationship, our friendship, lasted several years.
What is the point of the story as relates to the Foundations of Brilliance program
It is simply this: the frustration and unhappiness of not knowing what you really want to do with your career or educational life, can be handled very easily and quickly when the right approach is used to help you (or others you know) discover the path that will bring the happiness and satisfaction we all want to experience from our work or studies. TheFoundations of Brilliance helps you to know with certainty what you really want to do.
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July 3rd, 2016
Here is how I am defining a moment of magic:
“A moment when you realized with certainty your life was going to majorly change for the better, and it did. 
As I was thinking about this article I started to review my life, and think about what were those truly magic moments in my life. I am VERY HAPPY to say I found so many it was hard to select a few to present in this article.

Here is a partial list of my magic moments, what are yours?

  • The very first kiss with my wife Caralyn in June of 1972. We were teachers and our rooms were across the hall from each other. Over the school year from 1971 to 1972 we started our friendship that kept blossoming into something more. Then on the last day of the school year we finally kissed and I so vividly remember how impacting that was. I KNEW we were going to be together for a lifetime, if not longer. WOW!  MAGIC!Bernard and Caralyn Percy

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“Recognize the remarkable individuals in your life who help you envision a world far beyond yourself.” ― Bill Courtney

Bernard Teacher 1972The photo is of me with some of my students in 1972 – yes that is really me. Over the years I have met many remarkable individuals, Willie was one of the most remarkable.

Remarkable: notably or conspicuously unusual; extraordinary; worthy of notice or attention.

He Truly Believed in Me!

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He Truly Believed in Me!

I recently received two emails, one was in tribute to father’s on father’s day with a message that strongly resonated with me., the other with a truly inspiring and joyful photo of the sons of two very dear friends in Budapest, Hungary.


Growing and being in an environment where others believe in you, is the foundation of you believing in yourself, no matter what age or background.

I love, love, love this photo of Akos who is four months old, and his brother David. They know, even at four months of age, that their parents BELIEVE IN THEM, and the photo is a reflection of that belief.

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“When I say artist I mean the one who is building things … some with a brush – some with a shovel – some choose a pen.” – Jackson Pollock

To me, a true artist is someone who is devoted to building things, creating an impact on this world, having the competence and certainty of the tools, skills and knowledge needed to be successful. They have the imagination and intention to use what they know and can do, innovatively and creatively. You are an artist as a parent, a husband or wife, a business person, an athlete, i.e., in any area of life you choose to create.

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I know what it is to lose one’s self-respect when you do not know and follow the career or education/career path that is right for you. For seven years I worked as a consultant developing documentation and promotional materials for high tech companies. I was making a lot of money, BUT, every day I knew this was not something that is right for me, though I wasn’t sure what was. I was unable to find the path that was truly MY path, and lost some self-respect (not even telling people what I did for a living, because I knew I was not getting the satisfaction and sense of fulfillment I truly desired from the work I was doing). Is this true for you or someone you know?

Career Development 101

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How to Select a College Major

How many young people will go off to college this fall with the hope of figuring out what they want to do with their lives?  Today, many colleges are requiring the selection of a major as part of the application process.  Among the most hated questions other than “when are you going to get married?” is the dreaded “what are you going to major in?” followed by the most hated of them all “what are you going to do with your life?”

Education Consulting in Russia

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Career Consultation: “Go Confidently in the Direction of your Dreams”

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Applied Scholastics International – March 2010 Newsletter

Percy APS Newsletter March 2010 v3